Constructive wallowing

Chapter 2: The Accidental Wallower: My Story; Getting Over a Happy Childhood; Lessons From the School of Hard Knocks; Ditch That Backlog!; Summary; Chapter 3: Emotions: What You Don't Know Can Hurt You; Feelings vs. Emotions; "Negative" Emotions; Every Feeling Has Value; Having Feelings in Public; Wallowing Means Never Having to Say You're Sorry; Table 1. Some Ways to Deal with Feelings; Name That Feeling!; Feelings vs. Thoughts; The Substitution Test; Table 2. Some Feeling Words; Exercise; Feelings vs. Behavior; Good People Have Bad Feelings Too; How Hurting Heals.

?Constructive wallowing" seems like an oxymoron. Constructive is a good thing, but wallowing is bad. Right?But wait a minute; is it really so terrible to give ourselves a time-out to feel our feelings? Or is it possible that wallowing is an act of loving kindness, right when we need it most?Just about everyone loves the idea of self-compassion -- the notion that maybe in spite of our messy emotions and questionable behavior, we really aren't all that bad. In recent years there's been an explosion of books that encourage readers to stop beating themselves up for being hu.

Introduction: The Wonderful World of Wallowing; What Would You Do If You Lost Everything?; Natasha; Dan; What If You Have Everything and Still Aren't Happy?; Be Where You Are; What Does Wallowing Look Like?; How to Use This Book; Summary; Part I: Dip Your Toe in the Water; Chapter 1: Wallowing is Mostly Allowing; How You Cope with Anything Is How You Cope with Everything; Quiz; Scoring; You Can't Wallow Unless You ALLOW; On Becoming Whole; The Benefits of Wallowing; The Escalation Cycle; Figure 1. The Escalation Cycle; Figure 2. The Constructive Wallowing Cycle; Finding Time to Wallow.

The Life Cycle of a FeelingHow to Let Painful Feelings Go; You Can't Choose Your Feelings; Summary; Part II: Dive in; Chapter 4: 11 good Reasons to Wallow; Reason #1: You have no choice; Reason #2: It may be good for your health; Reason #3: Get your energy back; Reason #4: If you can't feel bad, you won't feel good; If You're Not Wallowing, You're Not Living; Reason #5: You're never more alone than when you abandon yourself; Reason #6: What we don't acknowledge, controls us; Reason #7: You'll feel better sooner; Reason #8: It's natural; Reason #9: We all have something that needs healing.

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